Can Blind Dates Lead to Marriage?

If you like Pina Coladas...and getting caught in the rain

If you like Pina Coladas…and getting caught in the rain

Unless you’re a professional matchmaker or the creator of an online dating giant like Jdate or, is it a bit much to expect a blind date to lead to marriage?

Not necessarily.

Mr. UnHollywood and I set up two friends on a blind date who have been happily married for seventeen years and have two adorable sons. Whenever we see them, they still thank us and I’m humbled and honored that it worked out the way it did.

I’ve also arranged blind dates that went south. After one particularly disastrous date, the girl sheepishly called me to say she might have been a tad mean. Then she started crying. Call Waiting bleeped through and it was the guy who thanked me for nothing. This handsome, funny gent assured me that we were still friends, however, I knew setting him up again was a no go. My credibility was shot.

From this, I developed a Golden Matchmaking Rule that both parties have to agree to before I text along any photos or numbers. Behave. Don’t say anything negative about your date!

Matchmaking is delicate business, but one I recommend you don’t shy away from. Even if you have ninety-nine flubs, isn’t the one match worth it?

This week I set up “Alex” with two women. Alex is a solid guy with a contagious smile, his own business, a beautiful home and no one to share it with except his German Shepherds, llama and pot-bellied pig. Alex is a handy guy and a typical weekend project is for him to build a barn so the goats don’t get cold. Does this sound like a caring guy or what?

I’ve never met face to face the two women with whom I set him up. They’re friends of friends. What some in the know would derisively call a “Double Blind.” I say Double Whoop.

Who is your ideal match?

Who is your ideal match?

If friends I respect recommend them, I’m game. I spoke to the women, saw their photos and answered their questions. What’s he look like? Has he ever been married? Does he want kids?

We covered a lot of ground, but obviously I don’t know everything there is to know about Alex. That’s for them to find out.
I really, really hope one of these two women is a match. There’s a Jewish saying that if you make three matches, you get a free pass into Heaven. One down, two to go.

Author Description

Cynthia Baseman

Cynthia Baseman is the author of 'Love, Mom: A Mother's Journey from Loss to Hope.' She writes about motherhood, the environment and education.

There are 11 comments. Add yours

  1. 12th December 2013 | Susanna Morgan says: Reply
    We'll need a follow up no matter what. And maybe he needs a profile on your site. Does he live in L.A.? I want to know where it's zoned for llamas and pigs!
    • 13th December 2013 | Cynthia Baseman says: Reply
      I'd love to tell you more about 'Alex'...suffice to say, there are areas not too far from the 90210 that do allow for hoofed animals. I'd tell you more, but I'm not allowed to:)
  2. 12th December 2013 | Sarah Maizes says: Reply
    The two great loves of my life were through blind dates. 1 through friends (I was 24) and the other from (my current live-in boyfriend of 7 years). My husband??? We met at the gym. How bout those apples?
    • 13th December 2013 | Cynthia Baseman says: Reply
      If that doesn't give would-be matchmakers courage, nothing will!
  3. 12th December 2013 | Louloudi says: Reply
    Seems like LA has a limitless amount of beautiful girls and if your boy Alex has all essentials, something doesn't smell right.... dude should be fine without any help. Now for the massive collection of animals, I can only recall the one piece of dating advice my father doled out decades ago.... "if you show up at a womens house for a date and she has more than one cat, run".
  4. 11th December 2013 | Ellen says: Reply
    How about me? Remember Ira?
    • 12th December 2013 | Cynthia Baseman says: Reply
      How could I forget? It was good...for a while...a very short while.
  5. 11th December 2013 | Matt Steiner says: Reply
    HA! I didn't realize how much of a matchmaker you are. I'd love to hear a follow-up about 'Alex's' dates and their results...I'd be a little nervous about meeting a man with a pet llama, but it sounds like he's just the rugged, outdoorsy type. ;)
    • 12th December 2013 | Cynthia Baseman says: Reply
      You'll be the first to know if there's anything worthwhile to report!
  6. 11th December 2013 | susan kolko says: Reply
    you will go to heaven - match/no match...and how did you think of the word sheepishly? i have never been able to set up anyone - it must truly be a gift even if you manage to succeed at one !
    • 12th December 2013 | Cynthia Baseman says: Reply
      Probably had "sheepish" in my mind thinking about this friend with his goats...

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